For many parents who go through a breakup or divorce, navigating the difficulties of parenting together while living separately can be challenging. You may find that trying to agree on every matter can be impossible, leading to more tension, arguments, and stress. If this is the case, you may find that you and your ex are better suited for a parallel parenting arrangement instead. If you are unsure what this is or how it differs from traditional co-parenting, you’ll want to keep reading. The following blog explores what you should know about these matters, including the importance of working with a Somerset County family law attorney to help you navigate these complex issues so you can fight for the best possible outcome for your family.
What Is Parallel Parenting and How Does It Differ from Co-Parenting?
In a co-parenting relationship, both parents will continue to jointly participate in their child’s life, often taking an “on the same page” approach. This means they will coordinate routines, expectations, and discipline. Co-parenting requires the parents to be in constant communication to ensure that no issues arise. This option generally only works as intended when both parents are able to set aside their differences and fully commit to remaining civil and cooperative.
Parallel parenting, on the other hand, is an arrangement in which the parents agree to spend time with the children independently of one another. This is often implemented in situations where the parents cannot reach an agreement on the vast majority of matters. However, it’s important to understand that there are legal issues that must be determined prior to the implementation of this arrangement to ensure that there is some form of consistency for the child. These matters, as often decided on by the court, include:
- How the parents will communicate with one another (texting, calling, emails)
- What information needs to be communicated (doctor’s appointments, school events, extracurriculars)
- General time frame in which this information must be communicated
- Which parent will have legal custody to make decisions on behalf of the child
Which One Is Right for My Circumstances?
Whether you should engage in co-parenting or parallel parenting will depend heavily on your relationship with your ex. If you have a history of being unable to agree on matters, or your divorce was particularly contentious and bitter, parallel parenting may be in your best interest. However, if you are ending your marriage on amicable terms, you may be able to commit to co-parenting.
Regardless, working with an attorney is critical to ensuring that whichever option you choose is best for your child. At the Siragusa Law Firm, our team understands that a divorce and subsequent custody battle can be stressful for both you and your child, which is why we will do everything in our power to help you fight for the best possible outcome for your unique circumstances. Contact us today to learn how we can represent you.