When you and your spouse are going through a bitter divorce, it’s important to understand that children often suffer the most during these matters. Unfortunately, you’ll find that one parent may not take the high road to set aside their differences and work together to raise their children as co-parents. Instead, you may become the victim of parental alienation syndrome. The following blog explores what you should know about these matters and the impact this can have on child custody. Additionally, you’ll learn why it’s critical to connect with a Somerset County child custody attorney who can assist you through these matters.
What Is Parental Alienation Syndrome?
Parental alienation syndrome occurs when a parent does everything in their power to turn their child against their other parent. This includes making derogatory, negative, and manipulative comments about the other parent in front of or directly to the child. This can influence how the child feels about their other parent. These parents will also often encourage their child to participate in the alienation by rewarding them for hostile behavior toward their other parent. Those who engage in this behavior may also manipulate their child by isolating them when after they spend time with their other parent to reinforce the negative connotation of their other parent.
This can happen for several reasons, but often stems from an underlying mental illness like Narsasisct Personality Disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder. However, it is critical to note that just because someone has a personality disorder does not mean they will automatically engage in this behavior.
What Should I Do if My Ex Is Alienating Me From My Child?
Dealing with parental alienation from an ex-spouse can be incredibly upsetting and hurtful. It’s important to proceed through these matters carefully. Though you may be upset or frustrated with your child’s resistance to spending time with you, continuing to reap every opportunity to spend time with and support them is critical. Keeping their environment in your home positive is crucial, as it’s important to remember that when they are at their other parent’s home, they are likely inundated with negativity.
You may find that in many instances if you can prove that you are a victim of parental alienation, you can petition the courts to modify your parenting arrangement, especially if your ex is violating the terms of the court-ordered custody plan. Be sure to keep a detailed record of every time your spouse makes up an excuse of why they want to keep the child at their house or what the child says when they do not want to spend time with you. Additionally, keep any evidence that shows the change your child has gone through as a result of your ex’s actions, as this can show that living with that parent is not in the best interest of your child.
This can be an incredibly difficult and emotional time. It’s important to remember that your child is a victim of manipulation at the hands of your spouse, and doing everything you can to help them during these matters is of the utmost importance. It’s in your best interest to connect with an attorney from the Siragusa Law Firm if you need help during these difficult times. Contact us today to learn how our firm can fight for you.
