Divorce is hard for many, but parents often forget to consider how their children feel. Unfortunately, parents may be overwhelmed with their own emotions, making it more challenging to see how their kids are affected by this process. Whether you have a toddler or teen, doing what you provide the necessary support and resources during this time is vital. This blog explores how you can help your children understand what’s happening while learning how a Somerset County family law attorney can provide additional support if your spouse is making this harder on your children.
How Are Children Impacted by Divorce?
Children can be severely impacted by divorce, often experiencing trauma as a result. Some may feel guilty or as if their parents are divorcing because of them.
In many instances, younger children will often be confused and sad, while older children often experience anger. For many, children will be preoccupied with thoughts of their family life at home, thus causing them to suffer academically, socially, and in their extracurriculars. This can further compound the feelings they have, making their anxiety, depression, and feelings of anger more severe.
What Can I Do to Help My Children During This Time?
There are many things you can do to help lessen the impact of a divorce on your children.
The most important thing to do is to shield your children as much as possible. Unfortunately, many parents will often speak negatively about their child’s other parent in front of them. This can cause severe confusion and guilt, as children may feel pressured to pick a side. Similarly, feelings of resentment can grow for one or both parents as the child may feel like they are a pawn.
It’s vital to ensure you are there for your child as well. Though divorce is inexplicably hard on those going through this process, your child needs additional love and support during this time. You should do everything possible to attend your child’s events and spend quality time with them.
Finally, you’ll want to co-parent as effectively as possible. Unfortunately, this is not always possible in instances where one partner has been abusive or has a narcissistic personality disorder. When possible, communicate directly with your ex-spouse, encourage them to attend special family events, and support the time your child spends with them.
What Should I Do if My Ex Makes Things Challenging?
If your ex makes things challenging by refusing to follow your custody schedule or pitting your children against you, you should seek to provide your children with the necessary resources to support them and help them work through this time while contacting an attorney as soon as possible.
At the Siragusa Law Firm, we understand that divorce is tough on all family members. As such, we will do everything possible to help you achieve the support you and your family need. Contact us today to learn more about how we will prioritize the best interest of your children during this difficult time.
