When you and your spouse decide the marriage is no longer working, it can be incredibly complicated to navigate. However, when your divorce is finalized and the child custody schedule is implemented, the last thing you expect is for your child to begin treating you differently. While children process divorce in different ways, what you experience may be closer to parental alienation. If you’re unsure what this is or how to handle being the victim of this matter, the following blog explores what you should know and how a Somerset County family law attorney can help you navigate these complicated issues.
What Is Parental Alienation?
Parental alienation occurs when one parent intentionally tries to manipulate a child into refusing to have a relationship with the other parent. One parent may continually tell the child lies, rumors, name-calling, and discredit the other parent to intentionally turn the child against the other parent. As a result, the child will likely reject any attempts by the other parent to form a relationship and can become hostile, combative, and distant.
Typically, alienation is the result of one parent looking to retaliate or get revenge against the other parent for their perceived wrongdoings. However, all this does is damage the relationship between the child and the other parent, and put the child in an uncomfortable and toxic relationship with both parents. It’s important to understand that because of the damages that can result from parental alienation, this is considered a form of child abuse.
What Should I Do if I’m a Victim?
If you are the victim of parental alienation, it can be devastating to come to terms with. However, it’s imperative to understand that there are certain things you should do and others you should avoid to help give you the best possible chance of maintaining a relationship with your child.
The first thing you should do is understand that your child is being manipulated by someone they trust. As such, it’s imperative to remember that your child is not to blame.
It’s also in your best interest to document these instances. Not only can this provide proof should you decide to take legal action, but it can also be beneficial if you decide counseling is right for you and your child.
If you should decide to take legal action, understanding what to expect is critical. In mild cases, the judge may order the other parent to refrain from saying negative things about you in front of the child. However, in more severe cases, family counseling may be required. When the alienation is severe, you’ll find that the court may determine that removing the child from the home is the best course of action.
When your ex-spouse intentionally alienates you from your child, the team at the Siragusa Law Firm can help. We understand how difficult these matters can be, which is why our firm is committed to fighting for you. We will do everything possible to help you and your child receive the best possible outcome during these matters. Contact us today for additional information.
