The main concern for many parents during a divorce is how their kids will handle these matters. It’s no secret that divorce can be disruptive for children, so many parents do what they can to reduce the strain it will place on their children. Some families have determined that a nesting arrangement is right for their family. If you’re unfamiliar with this option and what it entails you’ll want to keep reading. The following blog explores the benefits and disadvantages of this choice and why you should connect with a Somerset County family law attorney to explore your options for these matters.
How Does a Nesting Arrangement Work?
Many parents are worried about disrupting their kids by moving out of the family home and sending them between each parent’s home constantly. As such, they may agree to a nesting arrangement. This works by keeping the kids in the family home full time while both parents each have their own home. However, instead of sending the kids to spend a week with mom and then return for a week with dad, the parents will alternate who is in the family home with the children.
You should also understand that this is not intended as a long-term solution for families. Instead, many parents view it as a way to ease their children into a divorce and the changes their families will undergo, instead of introducing an entirely new routine, home, and lifestyle all at once.
What Are the Pros and Cons of This Option?
As with anything, there are benefits and disadvantages to this option. One of the primary benefits is that the children have a stable and consistent environment. Divorce can be overwhelming for children, and the constant moving back and forth for parents with split custody can create even more confusion. As such, this prioritizes the stability of the children.
Another pro is that it allows each parent to have equal time with the children. You won’t have to worry about your spouse dropping your kids off late to cut into your time with them, as you have to arrive on time to spend time with your children.
However, understanding the cons of this arrangement is also important. Unfortunately, the idea of two adults habitating the same space at different times can create issues if clear boundaries aren’t established and followed. For example, if you set clear responsibilities for each parent and they aren’t followed, it can cause frustration as one parent may feel they’re taking on more household chores than the other.
Additionally, it’s important to understand that this can be very expensive. Unfortunately, you may find that you’re still paying for the mortgage while also paying for the living space where you will reside when it’s not your time with the children.
How Do I Know If This Is Right for My Family?
Determining whether or not nesting is right for your family depends on your relationship with your spouse. This may work for you if you are both comfortable with the idea, willing to set and adhere to strong boundaries and share a mutual respect for one another.
When going through a divorce, you must have adequate legal representation for these matters. At the Siragusa Law Firm, we understand how complex these matters can be, which is why we are ready to guide you through the divorce process. Connect with us today to learn how we can fight for you.
